I'm with my wife sitting at Newark Liberty Airport on my way to New Orleans. I'm on standby since we missed our original flight. It never fails. I hate the first flight of the day because it's too easy to underestimate the need to arrive on time.
Anyway. It gives me the chance to play with this iPod Touch I'm typing on right now.
My parents celebrated their 43rd anniversary last Thursday. Growing
up I thought they had been married forever. But now, they truly have. They're partners and friends most days of the week.
I know so many divorcées and people who are on their way. The number of awful tuxes I've worn --- only for the whole thing to end in tears.
If you've been married more than 3 years and intend to stay married, what's your recipe for success?
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
How To Keep It Together
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Success?...lol...
I am single as a dolla bill...in a wad of money...*that'll sink in later*
I want to know what your parents recipe is... That's the rule of thumb I wanna go by...'cause my ish is faulty.
Plan to negotiate on everything. Plan to give in on some things and to accept defeat gracefully on others. Love your spouse but love yourself as well. Have expectations of your other half and hold them to the fire cause they will do the same to you. Respect comes with responsibility. Not much of a secret, but it works for me.
Marriage is hard work.
1. Don't hold grudges. If you forgive then let it go. NO MATTER WHAT!
2. Don't go to sleep angry. NO MATTER WHAT!
3. Teamwork
It's a partnership with a lot of give and take...some days I do more giving and other days I do more taking...but more importantly we were friends before we were ever a couple and I believe that has helped us when the path has been thorny...that and a few Long Island Iced Teas...hehe. Congrats to your parents...that's awesome!
xoxo
My recipe for success? It's not all about me.
You have to learn how to love, laugh and cry together. Holding back feelings will destroy a marriage quick. My wife and I have been together for thirteen years. Yes we have our ups and downs and misunderstandings but, that is the nature of the beast a man and woman's brain are wired different I.E. you look at your wife in a loving way, she thinks you are staring at a big booger on her nose at gets self conscious and gets mad at you for not saying anything, but, she will not tell you why she is mad at you when you ask, She just responds "nothing", but she is madder at you because you asked what is wrong and didn't know why she is mad and had the gall to ask in the first place...and so on. I learned that men are just sounding boards and just supposed to smile and nod..
Great comments...keep 'em coming! And remember this on bad days with your spouses.
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